Rainbow in the crowd

So, a friend of mine asked me today why I am so happy about decriminalisation of section 377.She asked me, why such happiness about decriminalising sex between 2 people, sex is just a part of life.

Well, here I am, trying to justify my unprecedented happiness about this move. It's not just about one's sexual life, it's also about one's life and dignity. Guess what! A person's sexual orientation is not THE person

"I am what I am, so take me as I am ", the fact that this came from the Chief Justice of India is making me jump with joy. This is not just a polished quote but an epitome of progressive ideology (Well, better late than never) and an unsaid apology for the taken-for-granted people of this country.

Gay, in English means happy, right? What an irony that we as a society chose to deny them minimum happiness for centuries. I've come across a transgender children, abandoned by their parents. I've seen people live through mental torture day in and day out, unable to get out of the closet. I've had a colleague call them 'gangrene'.I've had my own family call them a 'disturbance' to public life. I've come across cases of discrimination and abuse of LGBTQ students in colleges. And so we as a society have systematically failed by excluding them at every stage and by not standing up for them.

Let me demystify this to you all. We don't really have  LGBTQ data as part of our national census. We don't really have any policies that cater to their needs. In other words, education, employment, health and everything else that you and I take for granted are far away from their reach. Luckily if someone from LGBTQ community has had access to education and somehow managed to get a job in private sector, they'll have to live through homophobic jokes and anti-gay rhetoric in the workplace. Also, the sexual abuse against them goes unnoticed. Legal provisions were away from them, sadly against them. 

The move to decriminalise section 377  is hence much more than decriminalising the unnatural sex (sorry to burst your bubble guys, we haven't yet accepted gay marriages and it may be a long long time before we do). Article 14 of our constitution guarantees right to equality irrespective of sex. Now that we have accepted there's sex other than female and male, fundamental rights shall be viewed in new light for the LGBTQ community.

Social acceptance and developmental policies are still a long way ahead. But may be 5 years down the line, they get included in Government's policies of access to education, vaccination and sanitation. Our public toilets  have a changed form and make life easier for our fellow humans.Our college hostels turn gender neutral and our hospitals more inclusive. ( Quick fact, most of the incidence of  AIDS is found among the community and we haven't provided them with adequate health care, no wonder india stands at rank 2).

They'd have to access insurance, legal aid, marriage, adoption and more importantly social inclusion. 

All this comes from the recognition of their existence and awareness for the need of special provisions. And for all the futuristic dreams I've shown you guys, today marks the staying point. Supreme Court of India has once again proved that the constitution is not a mere book, but a living tree that grows along with its people, in all directions.

True progress is that which leaves no one behind.So, my dear fellow human beings, let's all spread our hands and welcome this new change. Let people have wings without barriers of sexuality. Let humanity take over and not the gender column. Let's hope for complete inclusion❤️

A farmer's pride

He is a man known as the manifestation of Indian ethnicity. His cracked feet is the testimony to the fact that he lives a rough life.Wrinkles on his face and dark circles that surround his eyes show how restlessly he works. The smile on his face and the warmth of his heart show how satisfied he is. He is farmer , he is a son of the soil.

His needs are simple yet he works day and night throughout the year to make the ends meet.Let it be the scorching heat or the drops of sweat that follow , be it pouring rain or the tumbling ice cubes that'd hit him and the crops. It isn't a battle against nature , it is an adaptation to its beauty and vulnerabilities that come along.


His house has a place for the animals to live , even though his living place is just a room. His farm is the passion of his heart. He lives in the charm of the nature and teaches his children empathy. He is religious in nature , better put he is religious towards nature. He names every sapling he plants and every animal he ever brings home . Hey buffalo ! that's what we call each other , but his buffalo has a name and is a part of the family. 


He doesn't earn much , they say ! How ignorant of them , they only measure wealth in terms of money. They do not know the eternal happiness of harvesting a successful crop , they do not know about a warm welcome from kids at the dawn , how do they not know that the kids are not only his children but also his cattle.


He takes pride in his farm, he takes pride in his work . Socially knit families of his village define him. His beautiful house represents his compassion. He takes pride in living life and giving life. That's the pride that keeps the human kind going.

Amputed fourth pillar of democracy

Sometimes it makes me wonder , how the whole institution of journalism has become just a joke ! Giving voice to the unheard and ignored has become amplifying the loudest rant ...how insane !
A bunch of presstitutes represent today's media and the entire society by large ! How easy it is to pass a derogatory comment on Indian culture/caste system/feminism and be in the limelight for a week .And surprisingly it is equally easy to publish a contradicting or rather challenging statement for the previous one and become popular.

Day by day , the news we come across seems so ironical ; Irony is that a girl who was praised for her courage and strength for facing eve teasing on road ,turns out to be the one at fault the very next day. Irony is that a lady lawyer surrenders herself for causing an accident for which media slammed a minister till then. Irony is that a  person who hasn't been recognized as a Member of Parliament for years now , suddenly becomes a leader after showing his talent in poetry and emotional speech. Irony is when media encourages people to fight over religious beliefs rather than asking the if sending meat samples for testing makes any sense in a mob killing case. Irony is that, a wardrobe malfunction takes up more space and attention than a National level sports player's hunger.

For a person like me,who believes in progress and elevation of journalism,it becomes extremely difficult to open up a news app or watch an entire debate without swearing all along.It becomes almost impossible to believe that an editorial is unbiased. Media is stated as fourth pillar of democracy for a reason and there are lots of people ,who look out for intellectual articles in newspapers. Media that paves a way for policy making , media that resembles the nation's integrity , media that respects privacy of people , media that supports the growth of the country economically, socially and culturally is what we need. Hope media persons realise this thing...the sooner the better.

Desperate dark hole

There does come a time when you regret your decision ,a point where you no longer see a hope.

when your person becomes a stranger. When you see your relationship in danger. When you are struck between leap of faith and valley of death !

When thousands of memories are clouded with a few in a sieve
When blankness takes over nostalgia and a photo tells you how dramatically the situation has worsened.

When distance creeps in and insecurities bulge out high
When you get tensed about everything even though you don't know why !

When blank space in the heart starts to space out your confidence
"This is not how it is supposed to be", cries your conscience.

But girl !

To love is to become vulnerable to all the awful things it can bring: crying yourself to sleep every night, overanalyzing, listening to the most depressing music ever, talking about it to anyone who would listen !

'coz, end of the day , being in love is inarguably the best thing that can happen to you ....If it works out you'll have a your person for life ! If it does not, you know how it would not,well aware and equipped for a lifetime.
'coz end of the day, you know your relationship needs to be nurtured if it's worth and needs to be thrown into oblivion if not.
'coz end of the day a heart break teaches you all the courage to open up for a new you.
'coz end of the day , even in this desperate dark hole ...you'll learn to live and love again.

All it takes is a little faith and lot of patience ! you'll do great :)

The woman we hate but love to watch !!

//A piece after Sunny Leone's interview in CNN-IBN // 

An esteemed journalist, who used yellow journalism and absolute shaming to insult his guest on hot seat .

A presumed porn queen takes it all with elegance and teaches the world something called indifference to negativity. 

This lady took me by surprise today !

I have always thought that her career choices are upto her and nobody has a right to comment.On the same hand I've not particularly respected/disrespected her attitude as a person,end of the day, what we have known as sunny Leone is what we have wanted to see her as ! All thanks to Hot Shit by CNN IBN , you guys made me see what Sunny Leone is and I now respect her for what she actually is !

I was waiting for her to just get up and walk away ,which she hasn't. I hold her high today for answering all sorts of inhibiting questions with utmost elegance and grace. I guess the interviewer was wanting to strike a controversy on her again and may be publicise it .He hasn't left one stone unturned , poking about her past, repeatedly asking if there's any repentance, drawing conclusions on pornography statistics , asking if Indians were hypocrites and also bringing in politics. Looks like he was all prepared for a news item next day , "sunny Leone calls Indians hypocrites" ; "Sunny Leone says she profusely repent her deeds and is ashamed of herself" ; "Sunny Leone talks about politics" .... blah blah blah !!
Sorry darling ! Time to throw your yellow papers into trash .

I somehow feel this 20 minute talk of her's is the most sensible thing that have watched in a couple of days. I can't imagine of any other celebrity taking in so much criticism,negativity and judgement with a smile and still answer with utmost calmness. She talks about career choices, positive outlook , relationship with her husband , how relationships between people should work out and lot more. And end of the day , all she has to say is your perception about her doesn't really matter and she would continue to work her ways ! I can't stop myself from appreciating that attitude.

As said in the previous post , she stands as an epitome for the phrase pour me a glass of haterade coz it's my choice to drink it or throw it. 

Pour me a glass of haterade

Do you feel  like someone's following you,taking notes of what you are doing, judging what kind of a person  you are and reporting it to the entire world !  

I guess almost all of us are sailing on the same ship !! There are lots of people around us who try to judge us and give us taglines. Whatever we do , no matter what our intentions are , our actions are validated by someone else's view point .

Being sweet  => Jobless and fake
Being honest => Rude
Being reserved and self involved => Dumb
Try solving issues between two people => Manipulative
Trying to be responsible => Authoritative
Enjoy life and see beauty of minute things => immature
Talk to everyone and wear comfortable clothes => cheap

“If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” 
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

And there comes a time when you feel like screaming at the top of your voice saying :
'This is my life ! Do not judge me , in fact you don't have the right to judge me as you haven't lived my life. You don't know what I have been through and what I am being through as well .Your miniature judgement on me, reaching me through the words and opinions of ten other friends of yours , can entirely ruin my day.' 
Irony is that , this changes nothing. Haters will hate and comments will still reach you.Slowly it becomes a part of your day and you can't change it. All you can do is cope up with all this, console yourself and tell yourself how wonderful and unique you are . 

It is absolutely fine to cry about someone's obscene comments on you.
It is completely okay if a good friend of yours turns out to being just another stranger
It is okay to call up your parents and crib about how the entire world is just  being a drama company and how you can't fit in .
It is okay if someone calls you arrogant/ fat/stupid/selfish..Language has adjectives and people use them in every way possible !

We learn to move on , we learn to overlook , we realise that we don't have to stop at every stage and explain ourselves. And later comes a stage where nothing really matters, some random person's opinion on you is not something you bother about. This is a place that I am in. Trust me ! you will get there too.Peace is when everything falls into place,just because you decided to see it that way.People are gonna still judge you,pour a glass of haterade on you ..all the time ! But by then , you will have moved way past all that ! you realize what success is , what dreams are and what passion is . You accept that you can't change dumbtards and all you gotta do is smile at their ignorance,they are not going to any greater heights with all this in head, as simple as that. 

All you have to understand is that , the only opinion that matters is yours,only person who can judge you is YOU , only person you are going to live with , is you ! You are the one who has the right to feel what you want yourself to feel and you can't let anybody let you feel what you don't want to feel . 'Compassion and forgiveness changes everything', too huge for us , but works ! 

Pour me a glass of haterade if you want to ! I don't care .. Coz I know it is my choice to drink it or to throw it.  

Giving hunger a voice

How many of you have been to interstellar ? I am sure you must have loved it , if you have.In addition to appreciating the talent of Nolan,we have also noticed the blight !! Well , we have sympathized with the situation of people in that movie. 

We open our refrigerator at least ten times a day and come across few food items which eventually go into garbage bin (unfinished !). That food never makes a difference to us , there is fresh and tasty food for next day anyway.

LOOK INSIDE YOUR FRIDGE, AND THINK ABOUT HOW AND WHY ITS CONTENTS TELL A BIGGER STORY ABOUT GLOBAL FOOD SYSTEM - Bill Pritchard (Asso.Prof at university of Sydney)

We keep complaining 'dude ! there's nothing to eat in the mess today' and tend to eat outside the campus everyday. But how many of us know the real scenario of "nothing left to eat" in this world !?
Wait! let me tell you.

Even though there is sustainable development in production of food grains,at least 805 million people go hungry every day. More than 2 billion people suffer micro nutrient deficiencies. Chronic hunger is one of the main causes of death in India and 7000 Indians sleep every night FOREVER. 

When we talk about country like India where all the poor are scattered across the country ! It becomes difficult to identify and distribute food to everyone .. But still there's got to be a way and a chance to change this !!! 

As we all know that betterment begins with us and the best way to fight this is to take an oath of not wasting food. How much more effort would it take , to ask for small servings multiple times in a mess ,rather than taking large quantities at once and throwing it ? Imagine the amount of happiness you can see in a beggar's face when you give him food ,rather than just 'catch my coin' thing. Feed a hungry person on road ! Trust me , It would not take much time and effort ,but you will carry a memory and satisfaction for lifetime. 

When you know you can make a difference , what are you waiting for !
So you wanna change the world ! What are you waiting for !